Showing posts with label large family. Show all posts
Showing posts with label large family. Show all posts

Friday, September 11, 2009

Shabbat on our knees... Teshuvah!

Tonight begins Shabbat and we will be on our knees. Today is the eighth anniversary of the 9/11.

We are not having a special meeting tonight but a time of prayer. Husband and I are grieved to see America has slipped back into complacency, back away from The Almighty. This is the season of Teshuvah, of returning back to the laws of The Father in preparation of the Fall Feasts and the Messiah's return.

How very fitting that tonight's Parashah is Ki Tavo, "when you enter." In this Parashah, the children of Israel are getting ready to enter the land and Moses is exhorting them to keep the law, the Torah. It is in this reading where the Moses gives them the charge for the "Blessings and Curses." Blessings if you follow the commandments, the Torah, and Curses if you don't. This is reflected in 2 Ch 7:14
Quote:
If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land.


Ki Tavo is read during the season of Teshuva, or returning, the time when we are to perform cheshbon ha-nefesh and teshuvah, (soul searching and return [to the laws of the Almighty]) in the days leading to Yom Kippur. In other words, "Repent before you die." This is interesting because Husband and I feel today, the eighth anniversay of 9/11, America needs Chesbon ha-nefesh and Teshuvah!

Parashah: Deut. 26:1 - 29:9
Haftarah: Isaiah 60:1-22
Brit Chadashah: Acts 7:30-36, Eph. 1:3-6 , Rev. 21:10-27

Saturday, September 5, 2009

How do these relate?

At first glance, this week's portion seems a rather dry, jumbled together list of laws that have little in common with each other: the rules for taking a captive to wife, a rebellious son, finding a mother bird and chicks... In fact, of all 613 laws of the Torah, I think 74 are found in is portion!

The portion is called Ki Teitzei and means "When you go out"
Deuteronomy 21:10-25:19
Isaiah 54:1-10
Matthew 5:27-30
1 Corinthians 5:1-5

In reading the Deuteronomy section, I wondered how could these laws be related? After reading again.... slower... A pattern did begin to emerge. I saw that this portion seemed to relate to family, specifically, Jacob's family.

I'll only write about the first and last parts of the Deuteronomy portion.

The Beautiful Captive is found in Deuteronomy 21:11 and, as I understand it, Strong's might have it wrong here.
The word Stong's uses is ידדות Yediduth (H3033) "beloved," but when I attempt to read this portion in a Hebrew Torah, the word is actually יפת תאר Y'fat To'ar, and is the exact word used to describe Rachel back in Genesis 29:17. It means "of beautiful form." I do not understand why Strong's would use such a different word as the original Torah but using "beloved" does make me remember Rachel. According to a few different websites, Rachel is the only woman in the Torah described as Y'fat To'ar, although I haven't checked this out.

******Edited! I have found our hard copy of Strong's uses the correct translated Hebrew word, Y'fat To'ar. It is our electronic version of Strong's and our hard copy of Green's Interliner Bible that uses the incorrect word, Yediduth To'ar, very likely a "fat-finger" mistake since the correct word is H3303 and the mistake is H3033. This just shows me to be even more diligent in Bible study*******

Rachel was from a somewhat pagan family and she stole her father's idols as she was fleeing with Jacob, presumbly to secretely continue the pagan practices, or at least to hold on to that part of her past. The Portion says for the Captive, the Y'fat To'ar, to promise to follow the Torah. Perhaps it was because Jacob didn't have her sware to follow the right rulings of the Almighty that Rachel struggled during the birth of her second child, named him "Ben-oni" or "Son of My Sorrow" and died.

A few verses later in the portion are the laws regarding the Hated Wife, the Rebellous Son, and the rejection of the firstborn. This also seems to point back to Jacob and how he did what the Torah prohibits: He took the first-born rights away from Reuben, his firstborn son of the"hated" wife, Leah, and gave them to Joseph the first-born son of the beloved wife, Rachel. Reuben WAS a rebellious son. Remember what he did with Jacob's concubine?

I have wondered why the Biblical Patriarchs often didn't follow the ideals of the Torah. I realize Moses hadn't yet been given the Torah when many of these stories took place but the Torah's ethics were in place since Creation.

Here is a quote from a Jewish website that shows this dilemma:
This brings up an issue which is quite beyond the scope of this shiur (but will be addressed in the shiurim on B'resheetGenesis later this year) - namely, how we regard those actions of the Patriarchs and Matriarchs which seem to contradict Toraic norms or ethics. We may note, however, that S'forno does address this problem in our Parashah and notes that if a firstborn son is not worthy of that inheritance (which includes a double portion and a position of power in the estate), it may be withdrawn from him and granted to another brother. This is why, as S'forno points out, the verse in Divrei HaYamim notes that Re'uven's sin (Reuben) with Ya'akov's (Jacob) concubine, Bilhah, was the cause of his losing the B'khorah, (right of the firstborn).
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The portion ends with a command to keep just weights and measures; to be fair in business dealings and reminds Israel to remember how they were treated by Amalek. Once Israel had rest, the commandment to blot out the rememberance of Amalek and not forget to do so is to be followed!

Even though Israel has yet to enter into rest from her enemies, I learned this week that in a small way, observant Jews are already following this command. When a Sofer, a scribe, is testing a Sofer quill for writing Torah pages, he will write out the name "Amalek" and then cross through the name and then blot it out.

But how does this Amalek section relate to the Torah Portion? Here again, is a quote from a Jewish website:

Much of our Parashah is devoted to inclusion and exclusion - who may marry into the Jewish people and who is excluded. One of the properties of exclusion is that it defines inclusion; i.e. by clarifying who may not enter, we begin to understand the unique qualities of those who may enter.

As we read in the genealogy of Esav (Esau), Amalek is a direct descendant of Ya'akov's brother. (B'resheet 36:12). Much as we maintain a powerful connection with family - even when they err (e.g. Onan), our lines are drawn around us and we can also define who is "not family". Although Amalek might be considered a "cousin", the Divine selection which firmly placed Ya'akov on the inside track - also pushed Esav out. His seed, though they may be genealogically related to us, are not our family.

This exclusion, as mentioned above, helps define the inclusion which is the undercurrent of the Parashah. Even if the sons and grandsons of Ya'akov sinned - even if we need to question grandfather Ya'akov's behavior - we are all still family with each other and we bear the responsibility that comes with that relationship.

The strong and uncompromising exclusion of Amalek helps to define the notion of Jewish inclusion for those who are truly of the family of B'nei Yisra'el (Sons of Israel) and Beit Ya'akov (house of Jacob).

This message runs underneath the explicit laws of family which form the basis of our Parashah and help us further understand our responsibilities towards each other - expanding on the second theme of Parashah R'eh

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So how do the commandments to not take a mother bird or to put railing around your roof fit in? These commandments do show kindness, and tradition says that these are the least of the commandments. Was this what the Messiah was talking about in Matthew 5:19?
Whosoever therefore shall break one of these least commandments, and shall teach men so, he shall be called the least in the kingdom of heaven: but whosoever shall do and teach them, the same shall be called great in the kingdom of heaven.
I think perhaps the Messiah was referring this portion of Ki Teiztei and he was saying ALL of the Torah is important and to be kept, even the "least of the commandments."

Much, much more study is needed on my part...

k'tiva v'chatima tova!

~wow~


Sunday, April 5, 2009

The Daily Grind

Life at our house has always been a bit chaotic, I am a bit of a "free spirit" and have always shied away from the concept of scheduling.  As much as I hate to admit it, it is very true that a larger than normal family does require some sort of a schedule, however loosely defined, in order to survive. But I had never been able to acheive a real schedule until we began keeping Shabbat.

When Husband became convinced that we needed to keep Shabbat, I wondered how we could waste an entire day?  We already didn't get anything done!  But as we went forward in obedience, I quickly learned that in order to "survive Shabbat" I needed a plan; a *gasp* schedule!  Otherwise, we wouldn't eat one day out of seven.

Here is my outlined, skeleton of a schedule.  It is as flexible as we are.  I don't fret when it is not followed exactly, this schedule gives us a vision, a goal to move toward and reminds me of Proverbs 29:18 .  
 Where there is no vision, the people perish: but he that keepeth the law, happy is he. 
  
~Every Week Day~
Breakfast
pets fed
Bible 
tidy bedrooms 
21 son and 16 son to work
school
laundry
wash dishes
sweep floors 
vacuum 

~First Day~ 
~sunday focusbedrooms~
strip beds 
wash all linens 
air out matresses 
clean under beds 
dust, de-cobweb 
wash windows 
miniblinds 
straighten dresser drawers 
straighten closets 
vacuum 
set out bowls of vinegar to freshen air 

~Second Day~
~monday focus: kitchen~
take everything off counter and scrub 
wash window 
clean oven, if needed 
dust & de-cobweb 
straighten cabinets 
clean out one drawer 
clean out fridge 
scrub floor 

~Third Day~
~tuesday focus: bathrooms~
spray sink & tub w/ vinegar 
spray tub 
pour vinegar in toilet 
wipe down sink & faucet 
scrub tub & faucet, (this may take something like 
Bar Keeper's Friend
scrub inside of toilet 
rinse sink & tub 
wipe down top, sides & around base of toilet 
spray mirror 
sweep floor, check 
toilet paper & Tissue 
empty trash 
wipe down mirror 
mop floor 
spray Lysol, or set out bowls of vinegar

~Fourth Day~
~wednesday focus:  Shabbat menu plan~
take inventory of pantry 
make guest list 
plan menu 
clean out fridge 
go to bank, (l've learned to shop with only cash) 

~Fifth Day~
~thursday focus:  shopping day~
Aldi
Sam's
Walmart
specialty shops

~Sixth Day~
~friday focus: Sabbath Preparation~
 make sure everything is clean, it should be already. 
all windows & mirrors 
begin Challah 
prepare food for Shabbat meals
fuel up car
last minute shopping 
haircuts, if needed 
baths all around 
set table 
light candles
welcome guests 
enjoy Shabbat! 

~Shabbat~
 sleep late 
breakfast 
extended 
Bible study with family and/or guests 
lunch 
enjoy the day that the Father made! 
Havdalah

~Seventh Day Evening~
~saturday night focus: the Cycle begins again~
clean up from Shabbat
wash dishes
straighten house
vacuum

Keeping Shabbat has brought order to our lives and as I have discovered, order can be a good thing.  Our entire week now revolves around the Day of Rest.  It's funny how our week now has purpose and I no longer feel as if we are treading water.   In giving up an entire day in obedience to Him,  goals that were once wistfully glaced at from a distance are now being reached.  The Father continues to lovingly teach me in the seemingly mundane tasks I used to dislike and He gently leads me ever closer to Him in the still, small voice of His path for me.

Shavua Tov!

We have been keeping Shabbat for two years now but tonight was the first time we had a Havdalah ceremony, which marked the end of Shabbat. I'm so glad we did for it added a new dimension to our understanding of His Day, of His separating the Holy from the profane. The various scripture and blessings recited over the candles and the wine and spices were beautiful and hearing them in Hebrew, which we've been studying, deepened their meaning for us. 

The blessing my Husband said to bring an end to Shabbat was filled to overflowing with meaning and significance: 

Baruch ata Adonai Eloheynu Melekh Ha'olam, ha'mavdil, bayn kodesh le'chol, bayn or le'choshech, bayn Yisra'el la'amim, bayn yom ha'shevi'i le'sheshet yemay ha ma'aseh. 
Blessed are you, Oh L-rd our G-d, King of the Universe who created a distinction between the holy and the profane, between the light and darkness, between Isra'el and the nations, between the seventh day and the rest of the week. 

Baruch ata Adonai, ha'mavdil bayn kodesh le'chol. 
Blessed are You, Oh L-rd our G-d who made a distinction between the sacred and the profane.
 

After the Havdalah, we all jumped into work, cleaning from our meeting last night, beginning the laundry again, vacuuming and planning for our work tomorrow. It made a wonderful transition back into "normal" mode.

Shabbat is over 
Shavua Tov! (good week!)